Original Wedding Vows Can Personalize The Ceremony

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Original Wedding Vows: How To Personalize Your Marriage Ceremony

Original wedding vows are a popular way for some couples to make their wedding a unique experience. And whether you're a traditionalist or not, the promises you make to each other on your wedding day are at the heart of your marriage ceremony.

It used to be the custom that couples didn't have much influence on what was said during their ceremony: they simply repeated the time-honored words of the traditional wedding vows that they were given. Some people used to think it daring for the bride to omit the promise to obey her husband! But nowadays it is becoming easier and more usual to give your marriage vows a personal slant.

So if you're thinking about contributing some of your own ideas to your wedding vows, you are not alone. You may well have the opportunity to describe your feelings towards your intended spouse -- maybe even incorporate intimate messages! It will make your wedding a heartfelt occasion to remember for you and your guests.

Discuss Your Ideas With Your Officiant

If you want to contribute your own wedding vows, contact your Officiant as soon as possible. He or she will be able to advise you about rules you may have to follow and explain what may be legally required. You will certainly be able to ask them for help and examples if you have trouble getting started.

The Topics To Include

You can make promises based on your love and commitment to each other, express heartfelt messages and refer to your plans for your future life together. Some people like to include funny wedding vows, jokes or humorous observations. Within reason, a combination of any of these may work very well. Customs vary in different societies, but it's a good idea not to make your vows too long -- after all, you may have to memorize them!

Deciding On The Official Version

After you've decided on a list of vows with your partner, make a draft version to show to your Officiant. It's a good idea to get their feedback, because their advice will probably be honed by experience.

Practice Makes Perfect

If you've discussed your vows thoroughly with your partner and the officiant, you'll probably be able to learn them quite easily -- especially if they're not too long! You can have notes to help you, of course, but a recitation by heart will create a powerful and dramatic effect on your spouse-to-be, your witnesses and your guests. So give yourself plenty of time to practice reading your vows aloud: record yourself, if you can, to judge your delivery and its effect on everyone else.

Delivering Your Vows At Your Ceremony

Don't worry unduly about feeling nervous. If you are well prepared, you will take your 'butterflies' in your stride! Many experienced public speakers feel nervous sometimes -- they have just learned strategies to help them cope. Try to counteract the tendency to speak fast that comes from feeling tense. And if it helps to have some discreet notes with you on the big day, go ahead!

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